Month: September 2014

The Social Media Marriage

iwedding-10vDo you have a hashtag for your big day? Will you update your status on Facebook seconds after you say “I do”?

For better or worse social media is pretty much unavoidable. Sharing happy moments is commonplace, but so is sharing everything else these days.

Many couples don’t mind the posts around their wedding, but there are a few social media etiquette rules you should consider.

  1. Tell Your Family and Friends First: Announce your engagement to your close friends and family before posting it on Facebook or Tweeting about it. People close to you may feel left out if they simply read about it or hear it from someone else who saw your post.
  2. Changing Your Relationship Status: There is no right time to change your status or last name (if you are doing so) on your social media networks. The wrong time is when it distracts from the moment. Don’t do it during your wedding.
  3. Keep the Paper Invites: You can send your ‘Save the Date’ and pre-wedding party invitations online, but your wedding invitations should be printed and mailed. This is not a Facebook event, it’s a wedding and should be treated as such.
  4. Inform Your Guests: There is a growing trend of couples asking guests not to take photos. They leave the photography to the professional photographer. If you don’t want to go that route, inform your guests that you are OK with their sharing your wedding pictures and details.
  5. Share:  Want to post a picture of your beautiful ring? Go for it; just keep the cost and carat a secret.
  6. Don’t Complain: Do not share your wedding drama with your guests. Don’t post negative comments about vendors, people in your bridal party or guest. Whatever you post should be positive.
  7. Wedding Tweets: Take a break from posting on your wedding day. You might be able to tweet or update your Facebook status once or twice on your wedding day, but don’t overdo it. Don’t be stuck to your phone on your wedding day.

And Here are 3 Social Media Etiquette Tips for Wedding Guests:

  1. Keep it private: If the couple has not yet announced their engagement or wedding plans to everyone, don’t congratulate them online. Wait until the couple is ready to share the news themselves. Send a private message, call them or congratulate them in person.
  2. Sharing pictures: Always ask the couple if you may share their wedding pictures.
  3. Don’t post wedding questions: Send any wedding related questions in a private message. It’s not for the whole world to read and comment.

Imperfect Perfection

Everyone has a perfect vision of what they want. What you want your life to be like. What you want your day to be like. What you want your event to be like.

Rarely does that vision perfectly translate into reality. There are variances in details, delays in timing, maybe you thought that flower would be a different shade.

As an event planner we outline every detail. We plan for perfection and prepare for imperfection. There has never been a single event in human history that was perfect, but the magic of the planner is to make it look perfect even when it not. 

The toast of the best man who forgot to take his drink with him as he walked to the center spotlight. From the shadows that same brand of beer he left sitting on the table is handed to him as if planned. The extra songs the band plays because the keynote speaker was delayed at the airport. No one notices. No one knows. It’s imperfect perfection.

Things don’t just happen, but we make them look like they do everyday. For the 5 hours you spend at an event 5 months of planning, phone calls, site visits, emails, tech rehearsals, sound checks happen. These are often the things that are dismissed in questioning the need for event professional. 

We are often asked what we do. The answer to that is anything and everything that needs to be done. That’s the job description of everyone on our team. It’s the moments that are often unseen when we take imperfection and mold it in perfection.